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The Divorce Lawyer's Handbook on Staying Married: Rule #1
Author: Jim Gross
It Takes So Little to Do So Much... A friend of mine tells this story about one night when he was working as an assistant manager at a health club. A young woman came in with a little girl. She looked harried, probably from working all day, and now she was looking forward to a swim with her daughter.
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Three on a Match: A Baby Boomer Dating Debacle
Author: Roscoe Dellums
If one Cupid is good, three must be better, right? Well let’s examine that. We’ve all heard of the expression that there is either feast or famine. No truer saying than this applied to my personal “love” life a short while back. I was having buzzard’s luck trying to find a single male on this planet, and there was nothing dead and nothing dying. Drought I tell you. Drought.
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Men, Men, Just Can't Win
Author: Colleen Tuohy
Everyone says men are only interested in one thing. Well, I’ve never believed it was true. I have always given men more credit. Sure, sex is on their mind but they are also looking for companionship and love. Howard, the man I was dating, was the perfect example of a true gentleman. Or so I thought. It wasn’t until I read Dr. Dorree Lynn’s article Watermelon = The New Drug-Free Viagra that I caught on to Howard’s playboy ways.
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What Are Your Divorce Fears?
Author: Jim Gross
Fear is a prevalent emotion during a divorce. And there are a lot of things to be afraid of, like:
* An uncertain future
* Financial hardships
* Loneliness
* Unhappiness
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Why Forgetfulness Isn't Always a Bad Thing
Author: Roscoe Dellums
I never thought I would proffer this explanation for dementia, but I think there may be, in some limited circumstances, a reason that as we become older some memories are best forgotten. Here is one of those circumstances.
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Marriage: The Second Time Around
Author: Beverly Mahone
When we get married at a young age, we believe it will last forever. If you look at the divorce rate, you will see that unfortunately for some, as time goes on, that happily-ever-after turns into a nightmare and suddenly you find yourself heading to divorce court. But all is not lost because there is still plenty of love in the world - and who says you can't have more than one prince charming?
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I Am Cougar: Hear Me Roar
Author: Colleen Tuohy
Mae West did it. Demi Moore and even Katie Couric are doing it. But when Trevor, sixteen years my younger, asked me out, I was flattered but not interested. My hesitation did not sit well with my girlfriends who prodded me with encouraging words like “Men do it all the time,” “You go girl,” “You’ve still got it,” and “It’s no big deal, just have fun.”
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A Man's Guide to Making Relationships Last
Author: Denny Durbin
If you think it’s that once-a-year trip to Hawaii or the Bahamas that’s going to build a stronger relationship, you might be a little off target. There is absolutely nothing wrong with going on a romantic getaway, but the key to having the time of your life starts way before you head to the airport.
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Marriage and Affairs - Think Before You Act
Author: Dorree Lynn, PhD
The wandering eye can be fun, if that's all that it is. When the married partner goes beyond innocent flirtation or appreciative glances, the spouse can put themselves at risk. If he/she starts feeling a real sense of desire, or actually acts upon their lust, then an affair can crack the foundation of the marriage. Secrets enter the couple's lives and the marriages can be heading down a difficult road.
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The Making of a Matchmaker
Author: Carol Morgan
Do you know that old adage about God closing one door and opening another? Well, not being a particularly religious gal, I never gave it much credence, until it happened to me.
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In Search of a Sincere Compliment
Author: Colleen Tuohy
I won't use his name, I'll just call him "Cheater in the two seater" being named after his character and his red Porsche. A charming man with the ability to make you feel that you are the only women in the room, and the most beautiful. Looking back, I understand that at one time we did have mutual feelings; we both admired him.
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Can Fighting With Your Spouse Make You Live Longer?
Author: Jim Gross
Ernest Harburg, a professor at the University of Michigan, and his colleagues, think that couples who don’t fight might have twice the death rate of couples who do. Harburg and his colleagues studied 192 married couples over a period of 17 years.
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Tips for Positive Communication that Strengthens Bonds
Author: Kathy Caprino
As many of us who are in work and family relationships know, communicating with love, compassion, and care with those we’re closest to or interact regularly with can be very challenging at times. Often we are so busy trying to make our point or receive much-needed validation, that we barely hear the other individual’s comments.
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The Passion of Herman
Author: Carol Morgan
Life as a matchmaker is not without its rewards. One of my personal favorites is being privy to the intimate
thoughts and feelings of my clients. Many seem to regard me as they would their doctor...
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Top 10 Ways To Add Sugar & Spice
Author: Dorree Lynn, PhD
Whether you are celebrating this Valentine’s Day with a long time spouse, lover, friends, family, or are alone this year… Valentine’s Day can be a time for self-love and treasuring all five senses.
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The Zen Divorce
Author: Jim Gross
As a divorce lawyer, I make a living off the infidelity, desertion and cruelty of others. I have seen people spend hundreds of thousands of dollars fighting over the marital estate. Believe me, I know how hard it is to toil, sacrifice and save for years to build up an estate, only to watch helplessly as it is destroyed almost instantly in a divorce. It is tough to let go of money. Yet that counterintuitive step is the secret of what I call the Zen Divorce.
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Cougars and Grey Panthers
Author: Dorree Lynn, PhD
Love makes the world go round and the varieties of and reasons for attraction are endless. In my practice which I believe is a microcosm of the world at large, I have found that although many of the old taboos around age-appropriate attraction still exist, they’re in fact fading.
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Appreciation
Author: Jack Levine
On one of my plane fights I had a thought which I'd like to share with you on the importance of appreciation. A word of several meanings, appreciation is first and foremost an expression of thankful gratitude; a word gift which says that someone is special and significant, and deserving of an honor and accolade.
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My Neighbor, My Wife
Author: Eddie Reece, MS, LPC
I didn’t marry my neighbor, but my neighbor is my wife. Here’s how it happened. Annie and I married and like most folks who marry or make what they hope is a lifetime commitment, we lived together. Notice I didn’t say we decided to live together. It was just a given. You get married, you live together. End of story.
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Stuff Your Anger or Express it?
Author: Dorree Lynn, PhD
As a therapist I’ve always been in favor of airing marital differences in as constructive a manner as possible. I’ve even spent countless hours teaching couples how to fight fair. Multiple studies indicate that holding onto stress is not good for your health. And over the years, I’ve seen how unexpressed hostility can damage intrapersonal and interpersonal marital health.
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Finding Love Again - Dating and Mating in the Second Half of Your Life: Part I
Author: Dorree Lynn, PhD
Statistics show that a good relationship increases one’s life span. A bad relationship hurts in many ways, including the ability to heal after an illness. As we add years, not having any significant relationship tends not to be good for either sex, but it’s worse for men than for women.
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Bonding: No Man (or Woman) is an Island
Author: Dorree Lynn, PhD
An important element to living better longer is what psychologists and sociologists call bonding. Bonding is another way of saying hanging out together. Having family, friends and community helps to keep us healthy. It is a simple fact that people who age with other people do better that those who age alone. Being with others whom you like or have something in common with helps ward off depression and anxiety. One’s mind stays more alert and if you find yourself prone to sitting on the couch wat
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Frozen or Fluid: Which Marriage Will Yours Be?
Author: Dorree Lynn, PhD
One day the renowned anthropologist Margaret Mead was interviewed by a young reporter for a story about her life. Full of himself, the reporter asked: "And Dr. Mead, how do you feel about your three failed marriages?"
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Prenuptial Agreements: Wall Street and Marriage - Do They Mix?
Author: Dorree Lynn, PhD
With the divorce rate climbing to close to 60%, marriage has often become a feared and fearful activity. Individuals no longer walk down the aisle, starry-eyed and so filled with love that a divorce seems like an unrealistic expectation.
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So Goes The Marriage, So Goes the Divorce
Author: Dorree Lynn, PhD
I have been a practicing therapist for over thirty years. I have been married, divorced, remarried, a working mom and a grandmother. As a result, my advice and information comes from personal experience that has involved my head and my heart. In these columns I will share with you information, practical advice and stories about other people's solutions to the many varied issues that arise from divorce.
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