Fifty & Furthermore

The Secret World of STDs in Assisted Living Facilities

By Dr. Dorree Lynn
From The Georgetowner 09.21.11

For what seems like forever, I’ve been working to raise awareness about the alarming increase in STDs in the over-50 population. The biggest semi-secret is the supposed safety of Assisted Living Facilities (ALFs). All too few are neither aware of, or want to openly acknowledge that our parents and grandparents are still having sex! It’s like when we were kids and we said “yuk” at the idea of our parents “doing it.” Even with Alzheimer’s and dementia, though recent factual memory fades and inhibitions wane, desire remains.

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The Mystery Disease That Would Define a Generation

By Dr. Dorree Lynn
From YourTango.com

30 years ago a doctor was confounded by symptoms he had never seen before. Cutting to the chase, he is credited with labeling the first AIDS case in America for what it was: a horrifyingly carnivorous disease that took thousands of lives, initially mostly homosexuals, and started a revolution. Not only did AIDS research begin in earnest and result in life-saving gains, but same-sex partners pioneered health care breakthroughs that benefited a nation. It also paved the way for a previously underground and shamed generation of LBGT’s to open their closet doors, leave their shadowed existence with their heads held high (well in most states) and walk, work and live productively and lovingly among the rest of us.

But the challenge is far from over. Though great strides have been made to educate and provide support to this previously hidden population of young men and women, paradoxically, it’s now parents and even grandparents who have become the silent secret sufferers between the sheets. The world has flipped and now it’s mom, dad, grandma Lizzy and grandpa Luke who are at greatest risk.

Condoms make a huge difference, but the older generation still thinks condoms are for procreation protection. Also, they have now become a new generation of daters filled with sex-sublimation and shame.

Whoever thought that sexy seniors, once judgmental of the young, would be the fastest growing population in the nation to contract HIV/AIDS and other STDs?

Men and women who are new to the dating scene are most at risk, and those suffering memory loss in retirement villages and nursing homes experience only a lack of inhibition, not desire or activity.

30 years later we have a new closet to open. One that is full of secrets that need to be shouted out loud. We need safe sex education for those least aware and most at risk–our venerated elders who, thankfully, remain sexy after all these years. A sexy, savvy senior myself, I plead on the behalf of all other seniors that we educate. Educate their grown children. Educate those afraid of the legal system. Educate America. Sex is our life-long birthright. Let’s use it and not lose it to disease.

Link: http://www.yourtango.com/201178293/mystery-disease-would-define-generation

The world of sexual aids is broken down into two categories:  Toys and Tools.  Men use toys, women use tools.  This theory transcends sexual aids.  Men love their toys, whether it’s cars, boats, video games, men love to play.  Women, however, approach the idea of sexual aids in the same way soldiers approach objectives on a battlefield.  For the sake of humor, let’s call it “Operation Orgasm.”

Walk into any sex store and peruse the walls and aisles looking at which products are designed for which sex.  For men, you’ll find penis rings, sleeves, pumps, lubes, and plastic vaginas (if you venture into the gay area you can find anal toys ranging from beginner to expert, with “training kits” somewhere in between).

But if you go looking for products for women, you’ll find the intersection of science and sexuality.  Products that seem to have been designed on the Starship Enterprise fill the walls and, often times, you have to cock your head to the side and use a little imagination in order to fully understand what the item is and how it is suppose to be used.

You may find items in a sex store that are designed to do things that aren’t humanly possible.  Which is exactly my point.  Because men are task-oriented, products for men are designed to be toys that “simulate” normal sexual experiences, whereas products for women are designed to be tools that “supplement” sex/masturbation by doing what a penis (or the man attached to it) simply cannot do.

Take the Rabbit for example.  It’s a vibrator on steroids, complete with an extra appendage designed to stimulate the clitoris and beads on the inside of the fake phallus that rotate, all the while vibrating at 2,500 RPMs.  A former client of mine once complained, “How am I supposed to compete with that?  I can’t put a motor in my penis… I’ve talked to the Dr. and it can’t be done!”

So the question becomes, “What do we do with this information?”  Let’s start by accepting the facts, and then move on to incorporating those facts into our sexual experiences.  I’ve long been an advocate for sexual aids, especially for those over 50.  We use hearing aids, walkers, and vitamins, why not use a vibrator or a Fleshlight once in a while?  That’s actually part of what makes sex after 50 so great—we’ve lived long enough that we should be comfortable with sex, and at the same time we should have become bored enough with regular sex that we’re willing to kick it up a notch and try something new.  The orgasm shouldn’t be the goal, but rather the journey to the orgasm… the giving of pleasure by one partner to the other, even if that means using a toy or utilizing a tool to get you where you want to be.

Men Have Toys, Women Have Tools

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The Mystery Disease That Would Transform a Generation

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If you’re reading Fifty and Furthermore, mellowing into fine wine, you’ve no doubt had a passing thought or two about writing down some of your life experiences. Sometimes called a memoir. If so, we should probably think about writing it sooner rather than

For six years I was the guardian of the gate for our local Catholic church here in Iowa. A parish secretary’s job is not easy, but it can be very rewarding. Unfortunately, everything you do is scrutinized closely by the congregation. If you have a second job, perhaps you might think twice before allowing anyone to know what you do in your spare time. It can cause you headaches you don’t need.
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In a previous article, I let you in on a secret. Who writes erotica? Older women! Now to help back up my words as well as let you in on a whole bunch of interesting authors you may have missed by reading only the