Fifty & Furthermore

Survey

By Dr Dorree Lynn
From Grownups.co.nz

I’m so happy to be a part of Grownups.co.nz in New Zealand! I fell in love with New Zealand when I was there a number of years ago and your country holds a special place in my heart. I had planned to visit New Zealand for three weeks, but was lured to stay six on both the North and South Islands. From Auckland, to the Milford Trail, Christchurch, Whitianga, to beaches and gliders, NZ has the freshest bass and best cream in the world (it is one of the few countries where I’ve ever gained weight).

Judging by the emails and web hits, New Zealanders seem to be pretty hip to healthy sexual relationships. Together with the team of experts at GrownUps, we’ve put together a sexy survey to learn all about your pleasures, preferences, kinks and curiosities. Once we receive enough input, we will tally the answers and publish it on the site, revealing your collective sexual proclivities anonymously for the world to see and possibly learn from.

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Toys for GrownUps

Psssst. Wanna know a secret?  Grownups, even some very grownup grownups, are playing . . . with sex toys! In fact, there is a sexual revolution occurring for people over the age of 50.

Adult sex toys, pornography, erotic literature, game playing, and other pleasure products and practices have become much more mainstream than ever before. This is good news for those in good health because sex toys can add fun and excitement to adult life. » Read the rest of this entry «

Bravo, Pornography!

Porn is one of those concepts that evokes immediate reactions, pro or con, sometimes sending otherwise seemingly sane people into screaming fits. In my view, Porn, as with everything else sexual, is in itself neither good nor bad. When one is addicted to Porn to the exclusion of the ability to have a relationship, or uses is to hurt others, obviously it’s not one of my top ten picks for your road to health. However, when used mutually by two consulting adults, it can help heat up your sex life and keep that oh so elusive long-term intimacy alive. » Read the rest of this entry «

Never Forget That YOU Are a Catch!

Do you ever stop and think that right now, right this very second, that there is someone out there looking for you?  Someone whom you could like, maybe even love, is wondering where in the world you are.  You, just as you are right now, are exactly who he or she would like to get to know.  Stop thinking about how you’ve changed or thinned or spread or wrinkled or what you don’t like about yourself. (Everyone has a favorite negative body part or quality than they can spend hours obsessing about). Focus on the positive.  Shifting your attention to your best features, both physical and otherwise, will make you more confident and attractive.  There must be something you like about yourself!  Your eyes? Your easy smile? The sound of your voice?  Your quick intellect, or your sense of humor?  Sure, you may have some low self-esteem issues, but remember, so does everyone else.
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Forget Your Sun Sign – What’s Your Sex Style?

Most people make love the way they want to be made love to. They tend to forget that not only do they have their own lovemaking style, but no matter how often they’ve had sex with their partner, there’s a good chance that it never occurred to them that their partner’s style is probably quite different than their own. And, you don’t need to be male and female partners to find this to be true. So, what do you do?

Start by being aware and of course communicating. Open communication (verbal or by touch) is the key to great sex. I’ve listed eight fairy common sex styles below. Do you fit into any of them? Does your partner? Maybe each you has more than one style?

Start by thinking about which ones are predominantly yours and your partners. In my next article, I’ll tell you more about how to have fun and intimacy getting know how to enjoy them all. And even more important, how to think about what parts of sex you love the most. As long as sex is between two consenting adults, there’s no wrong answer. As with life, there’s pluses and minuses to it all. Enjoy yourselves, experiment and play.

Eight Sex Styles to Think About and To Do:

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