Sex for Better Health
By Dr. Dorree Lynn
From Grand Magazine 01/02 2012
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Ask any twenty-something about sex for seniors and they will probably look a bit grossed out. Ask a sixty-something about sex for seniors and they will likely give you a secret smile. That is because we seniors know the real truth that sex only gets better with age. Furthermore, sex for those over 50 helps keep us healthy in several ways.
Naturally, the sex you have early in life is not the same sex you have later in life, but the benefits are just as powerful. Your brain is your largest sexual organ, so you have to start with how you define sex. Sex is more than penetration. It is about an intimate connection, and it can easily begin in the morning with “I love you.” Intercourse is merely an element of sex, supplemented with passionate kissing and intimate touch.
Why bother?
Sex is our birthright, and, believe it or not, sexual desire is one of the last capacities we lose when we age. Sex for the ageless allows us an opportunity to connect with our partners. The physical requirements of sex, presumably lower impact at a higher age, helps us burn fat and exercise our bodies, causing the brain to release endorphins that help alleviate anxieties. Studies have shown that frequent sex at older ages can help increase our lifespan and strengthen relationships.
How does it work at our age?
The positions and antics you used to do in your twenties and thirties will not serve you well in your fifties and sixties. Say goodbye to headstands and swinging from the chandelier, at our age we should focus more on the intimate connection of sex. Start by openly communicating with your partner, using humor to lighten the mood if necessary. Discuss new ideas and talk about what both of you are capable of and willing to try.
Make it last by starting with a romantic dinner or a movie. Enjoy a walk while holding hands in the park. Create a moment where you focus on being together and celebrating yourselves as a partnership. There is no reason to be shy, so open up and talk about what you want to do later. And when the time comes, relax. Maybe you will start by soaking side by side in a relaxing bath or by giving each other a massage. The goal here is to enjoy an intimate moment together.
Hang-ups are for telemarketers!
Do not let emotional obstacles ruin your good time. We all experience anxiety, depression, stress and lack of libido from time to time. This is normal. Relax and work through it. It is okay if your body sags in few places; presumably your partner’s body has changed over time as well. Don’t panic over performance issues, you are certainly not being judged by the Olympic Committee. This is your partner, your life, and your health and happiness on the line, so put you first and make it a great time!
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